An early valentine for Curtis
Winter is here for sure! It has snowed 3 out of the last 4 weekends, after a warm and snow-free start. The weather folks say we are heading into a warmer and dryer pattern, and I'm hoping they know what they are talking about. Snow does cramp my style!
I wanted to note that I am feeling a greater appreciation for Curtis, my husband. He went out to California to "rescue" his mom from being alone with dementia and no family. He handled everything very well, even getting stranded at the airport with her on the way back. He got her settled into an independant living facility here, visits her twice a day to give her her medication because she would forget that she took it, and puts up with her taking little sniping jibes at him. Additionally, he goes out in snowstorms in the middle of the night to pick up Laura from work, because her license is still suspended. He makes sure to take our son Brian out to eat for their customary weekend meals out. I worry about him getting burned out, and have pretty much made sure he's not doing too many chores around the house. He's a really giving person, and I hope he's finding enough time for himself!
I have to admit I haven't thought too much about Curtis for several years -- I've pretty much taken him for granted. He can get on my last nerve at times. I haven't been very loving with him! I just haven't been the wife he deserves. I've been too wrapped up with my own stuff... too wrapped up with the kids... And I don't really know how to fix it now!
What I'm doing is just trying to be nicer, more thoughtful, more attentive. It's a good place to start. I want to mend the fences between us. I'm not even sure he is aware there are fences to be mended! But I know. And I'm going to have to be the one to start it. He's got enough on his plate now with his mom around!
In the end, in a few years his mom will be gone and our kids will have moved on. I hope by then we'll have a great comfortable relationship we can enjoy!
I wanted to note that I am feeling a greater appreciation for Curtis, my husband. He went out to California to "rescue" his mom from being alone with dementia and no family. He handled everything very well, even getting stranded at the airport with her on the way back. He got her settled into an independant living facility here, visits her twice a day to give her her medication because she would forget that she took it, and puts up with her taking little sniping jibes at him. Additionally, he goes out in snowstorms in the middle of the night to pick up Laura from work, because her license is still suspended. He makes sure to take our son Brian out to eat for their customary weekend meals out. I worry about him getting burned out, and have pretty much made sure he's not doing too many chores around the house. He's a really giving person, and I hope he's finding enough time for himself!
I have to admit I haven't thought too much about Curtis for several years -- I've pretty much taken him for granted. He can get on my last nerve at times. I haven't been very loving with him! I just haven't been the wife he deserves. I've been too wrapped up with my own stuff... too wrapped up with the kids... And I don't really know how to fix it now!
What I'm doing is just trying to be nicer, more thoughtful, more attentive. It's a good place to start. I want to mend the fences between us. I'm not even sure he is aware there are fences to be mended! But I know. And I'm going to have to be the one to start it. He's got enough on his plate now with his mom around!
In the end, in a few years his mom will be gone and our kids will have moved on. I hope by then we'll have a great comfortable relationship we can enjoy!
posted by Judy W. @ 10:18 AM
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